January 3, 2015 (original post here)
As my college years come to a close, I think back to all the opportunities that I passed on, organizations I didn’t join, and people that I stopped talking to. I want to share some of the things I wish I did with the hopes that it may push some of you take a chance and try something new.
I also wanted to add on, that I don’t regret not taking those chances/opportunities. Every decision I’ve made and every opportunity I passed up has brought me to where I am today, and I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. I love where I currently am in life, and although I wish there was a couple of things I could change, I still love where I am.
- Looking into Greek life – I never thought I would be good enough to be in a sorority, mainly because I had this image of what a sorority girl is supposed to look like and I didn’t think I fit the bill. I have some of my friends in Greek life and I love how you basically have a family that’s with you throughout your years in college; however, it is a lifestyle and takes a lot of time and dedication.
- Joining organizations/clubs – The main reason why I wish I had joined some of these clubs is to help build a network and make connections within a specific field.
- Understanding the importance of networking – When I first started college, it seemed like all my teachers talked about was the importance of networking. I thought that networking in college wasn’t going to be beneficial to me, it’s the networking that i do in the work place that would be important. What I didn’t notice was that once people graduate, and you keep in touch with them, they’re able to provide you with information about the work field, and possible employment opportunities.
- Pursuing what I wanted – I’m extremely hard-head (stubborn) and I wish I had fought for what I really wanted. When I moved to the mainland I did it mainly to pursue my dream of becoming a profession bowler (strange, I know). Instead of fighting for that dream, I decided to let it pass by. Now I watch those around me, who bowl, be able to accomplish so much, I wish that I had stuck with it.
- Planning financially – I wish that I had thought about my finances earlier. When I look back at my four years of college, I think about how much money I spent on Starbucks or Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf and the amount of times I went out and ate instead of eating something at home. It’s crazy to think about how much money I would’ve saved.
- Stay connected – When I moved, I ended up accidentally cutting off majority of my communication with the friends I had back home. It was difficult for me to adjust and I kind of withdrew into myself. I wish that I had continued to talk to my friends back home and stay connected with them; now whenever I see them it can be awkward.
- Enjoy being in my late teens and early twenties – I’m still young, but all I’ve ever known is work. I’ve always had to be responsible and to not sacrifice going out with friends. I’ve always wanted to have one night where I just act irresponsibly, but yet responsible at the same time, however I’m not sure when I’ll be able to have that night or if I’ll ever have that night but we’ll see.
- Live in the moment – Sometimes I just got so caught up in school and worrying about the future, that I often took for granted just enjoying where I am in life. I’ve honestly spent more time in the library than I did spending time with others. When I could’ve studied in a group I would choose to study by myself. When I would travel, I would focus on what tests/classes I need to study for instead of enjoying the sights and experiences.
Like I said in the beginning, although there may be a lot of things that I wish I had done, I don’t wake up and regret not doing those things. All my decisions brought me to where I am today and I couldn’t be happier. If you’re not in college yet, I suggest that you take some of these things into consideration. You should invest yourself into things that will provide you with opportunities. It’s going to be scary, stepping outside of your comfort zone, but taking that chance will open doors for you. If you’re already in college, there is still some time to make those changes and take those leaps of faith. You never know what’s going to happen until you take that first step, and that first step will always be the scariest.
I hope that you guys stay encouraged. I don’t want any of you to regret the things that you didn’t do because when you regret, you allow those things to keep you from moving forward. Keep moving forward.