Hey guys hope you’re enjoying this Labor Day weekend. I thought this would be a great time to introduce to you the first step in the Freeway series. If you’re new and don’t know what I’m talking about, you can check out what the Freeway series is all about here! Today I’m going to be talking about the first step and sharing my experiences.
The first step is kind of a difficult one to explain – it’s better to tell it in a story:
There once was a son who was in line to inherit some of his father’s wealth. Instead of caring for his father and enjoying the life his father had worked so hard to create for him, he told his father that he would like his portion of his inheritance. The father was shocked, but decided to provide his son with the portion he was to receive. The son went off and lived like a King. He spent his money wherever he wanted, went to the most wildest parties, and he was surrounded by people.
After living like this for a little bit, his money started to run out. The lavish spending stopped, he was no longer invited to any of the parties, and the people who had surrounded him had disappeared almost as fast as his wealth. He had to do the most degrading of jobs and soon he came to his senses – one night he was so hungry he was willing to eat the same garbage the rats were eating. Finally realizing his mistake and how far all of his actions have brought him down, he decided that he would return to his father. Once he returned he planned to tell his father of how sorry he was, the lessons he learned, and he’s willing to repay him by working around the house.
The day he returned, he wasn’t expecting to see his father welcome him with open arms. He stared at the ground as he walked up to the house. It wasn’t till he tried to ring the doorbell did he see his father there. With tears in his eyes he said, “Welcome home son. I’ve been worried about you.”
The main takeaway from this story is that the son didn’t really realize where he was in life until he was in the pit of it. He didn’t recognize how his actions had affected those around him. He was so busy wanting to live his life and to be out on his own, he neglected to see the whole picture. It wasn’t until he was so desperate did he realize where he had placed himself in life. He didn’t recognize how desperate, tires, weary, and sad he was until he had no choice but to see it face to face.
In life we get so busy and distracted from everything. Most of us may wake up, go to work/school, come home, deal with family/friends, watch our favorite TV shows, and then go to sleep. In between that time we’re either driving from point A to point B and maybe from point B to point C, we’re stuck in traffic, walking somewhere, checking our Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, trying to figure out what’s going on in other people’s life, etc. If we really look at it, are we that busy? I’ve come to realize that we’re more hurried than busy. Sure, some of us jam pack our schedule. When we jam pack our schedule we lose out on time for us to reflect on where we are in life. We neglect how we’re feeling emotionally, how our souls are feeling, and how we’re mentally/physically feeling.
Step 1 in the Freeway series is to be aware of where you are in life. We need to take the time and figure out what type of distractions do we put in our lives so we don’t have to face our problems head on. I remember when there was a short period of time, there was so much arguing going on in my household, I would go anywhere to just get away. I spent so much time and money (shopping) just so I didn’t have to be at home. I would even stay late at school and study or try to get ahead in the class as long as I didn’t have to go home.
To help you with this step, here are some great questions to ask yourself that are from the Freeway book:
- What does it mean to you to be “self aware”? How would our lives be different if we were more self-aware?
- Why do you think it can be so hard to get in touch with what’s going on inside of us? What keeps us from growing in self-awareness?
- What is the opposite of “self-aware”? When have you seen it hurt someone? How has it hurt you in the past?
- Have you ever thought something was good for you and then you discovered that it wasn’t? Maybe it was a habit (like checking emails first thing in the morning) or a relationship (with that abusive someone).
- How distracted are you in your life? How fast are you running (in life)? Is it possible you’re running from something?
Take a moment to just think about your answers to these questions and remember to take some time out of your schedule to check/evaluate yourself and where you are in life.